Are You A Girl Or A Woman?

This (obviously) is a video for all the female goddesses out there. I was challenged in my last relationship to transition from my “girl” into my “woman”. It’s not that I was acting or living in an immature way, I just spent too much of my time living in the mindset that I was still a girl without acknowledging the woman I’d become. More in the video… (and sorry about the audio, my microphone ran out of battery!)

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  • [..YouTube..] i’m really enjoing for once the hd resolution, it allowes me to take a deep look at your skin…and it’s just gorgeous.

  • Frank Bottazzo

    i’m really enjoing for once the hd resolution, it allowes me to take a deep look at your skin…and it’s just gorgeous.

  • [..YouTube..] i’m really enjoing for once the hd resolution, it allowes me to take a deep look at your skin…and it’s just gorgeous.

  • TheInternetWanderer

    This “woman” must truly have self esteem issues. Many cultures, not the least being Australia’s Aboriginal peoples; have ceremonies celebrating boys becoming men and girls becoming women. The First Nation People of Canada also have this beautiful rite of passage, as do Asians, Africans and Europeans, most with many religious and cultural variants.

  • [..YouTube..] This “woman” must truly have self esteem issues. Many cultures, not the least being Australia’s Aboriginal peoples; have ceremonies celebrating boys becoming men and girls becoming women. The First Nation People of Canada also have this beautiful rite of passage, as do Asians, Africans and Europeans, most with many religious and cultural variants.

  • [..YouTube..] This “woman” must truly have self esteem issues. Many cultures, not the least being Australia’s Aboriginal peoples; have ceremonies celebrating boys becoming men and girls becoming women. The First Nation People of Canada also have this beautiful rite of passage, as do Asians, Africans and Europeans, most with many religious and cultural variants.

  • Rose

    i love this message! it is not trippy at all, it is a powerful sharing. i think that many females remain “girly” because they haven’t come into their needs and power. when we really own our needs and our power, it’s a beautiful transformation as you say! for a lot of us in western cultures, it happens a little later like in our late twenties or even thirties. i am in the midst of it myself so i can very much relate to your experience.

  • Cassie

    Hi Fran : D

    So happy for you that you are having a really precious time growing and learning. I just love this video! Thank you for sharing this. I really relate to how you are feeling, and I needed to hear this. I’m 31 and still feel like a girl alot of the time, starting to feel like a woman, but havent felt confident in identifying myself as a woman. I am a woman! I love being a woman, and want to delve more into my womanhood :) Beautiful!
    Thank you : D

  • thatbloodygirl

    I generally like your videos, however, I find it insulting that you say Australia lacks these coming of age traditions. The people of Australia have long held such traditions, they are just not held by the white immigrant population who dominante the image of the country. The native people of the land hold these traditions, as do many cultures. It’s all well and good for you to travel and explore other cultures but perhaps look closer to the place you deem to be ‘home’ and you will see that.

  • [..YouTube..] I generally like your videos, however, I find it insulting that you say Australia lacks these coming of age traditions. The people of Australia have long held such traditions, they are just not held by the white immigrant population who dominante the image of the country. The native people of the land hold these traditions, as do many cultures. It’s all well and good for you to travel and explore other cultures but perhaps look closer to the place you deem to be ‘home’ and you will see that.

  • mariaperiwinkle- I don’t mind woman at all, I don’t look at it as an extension of the word man at all :)

    ravendream33- Woohoo! You’ve been blessed with good genes by the sound of it my friend

  • [..YouTube..] @itsageoffrushthing The problem is not you coming across as a “real woman” – it’s other people and their perception problem. Don’t let it hold you back! :)

  • kati

    Hi Fran

    I often think about this too, and I think for me it’s partly tied up in my physical appearance (I am very petite and young looking) as well as conditioning from childhood and parents.

    I’ve been using the transitional title of “lady” before fully owning my woman! I still feel a bit awkward about being a ‘woman’ but lady is helping me rise to it!

  • Veronika

    Yes I know exactly what you’re talking about – I’ve been thinking about the difference in energy between ‘girl’ and ‘woman’ and have been hoping I would transform into owning more of my woman-ness. I’m turning 26 this year and I have a feeling I’ll be experiencing some new things in the next couple years to help me own that energy.

    I also know what you mean about acting like a ‘girl’ in your relationship – I feel like that happens in my relationship too. I go between girl, woman, and acting like a mother. It’s funny that women can take on these different roles, but men are usually just men (and sometimes boys when they’re behaving really silly or immature).

    I think men respect us more when we act like women, but I agree that we should hold on to our youthful girlishness too.

  • ravendream33

    I am 42 and have no kids and am the same size and shape as a teenager…..20 year old boys have flirted with me in stores wherever I am shopping, not knowing my age! They assume because I look young that I am……it’s funny, how people assume that if we are skinny and young looking we must be only mid 20′s!!

  • [..YouTube..] I am 42 and have no kids and am the same size and shape as a teenager…..20 year old boys have flirted with me in stores wherever I am shopping, not knowing my age! They assume because I look young that I am……it’s funny, how people assume that if we are skinny and young looking we must be only mid 20′s!!

  • tyronebiggums3

    Fran, you look radiant in this video. The color you’re wearing is perfect for you.

  • [..YouTube..] Fran, you look radiant in this video. The color you’re wearing is perfect for you.

  • mariaperiwinkle

    this was a relevant video for me especially now since i just started bellydancing class.
    how do you feel about the word woMAN? do you prefer womyn?

  • [..YouTube..] this was a relevant video for me especially now since i just started bellydancing class.
    how do you feel about the word woMAN? do you prefer womyn?

  • Deb

    I find it interesting that boys can’t wait to be thought of as men but women often cling to being girls. I wonder why that is?

  • [..YouTube..] 30! At the most I thought you were 24…. :) Speaking on subject, I have a book called The Circle of Life: Thirteen Archetypes by Elizabeth Davis and Carol Leonard. I got it a while ago and it speaks of all the stages in life, and history of menstrual cycles, etc. Very cool- it makes you think about yourself very differently after reading it. You should check it out!

  • [..YouTube..] I like how you believe a man is always a man and a boy, and a woman is always a girl and a woman. It’s a very interesting idea and I agree totally.

  • AmusingYeti

    Im a man :)

  • [..YouTube..] Im a man :)

  • honeyybees

    Wow, I really agree with the things you are saying in this video. The word “woman” has a powerful, sexual and confident energy around it. And I’m not saying that being a “girl” is any less then what being a woman is, but in the longrun, if you are only refering to yourself as “just” a girl, you might not be living up to everything you can be and everything that you are. I hope that made scence, haha ;)

  • [..YouTube..] Wow, I really agree with the things you are saying in this video. The word “woman” has a powerful, sexual and confident energy around it. And I’m not saying that being a “girl” is any less then what being a woman is, but in the longrun, if you are only refering to yourself as “just” a girl, you might not be living up to everything you can be and everything that you are. I hope that made scence, haha ;)

  • itsageoffrushthing

    I always guessed that you’d be about 3 years older than myself (I’m coming up 22 at the end of this year)…haha oops!

    I’m naturally skinny with a rather soft & lispy voice so I find it difficult to come across as a ‘real woman’…I know that sounds like I’m buying into the whole ‘you have to look and be a certain way to be a *real* woman thing’!…but I’m not, I just observe that I’m often looked upon or spoken to as a 16 or 17 year old! It’s awful but I try not to let it hold me back.

  • [..YouTube..] I always guessed that you’d be about 3 years older than myself (I’m coming up 22 at the end of this year)…haha oops!

    I’m naturally skinny with a rather soft & lispy voice so I find it difficult to come across as a ‘real woman’…I know that sounds like I’m buying into the whole ‘you have to look and be a certain way to be a *real* woman thing’!…but I’m not, I just observe that I’m often looked upon or spoken to as a 16 or 17 year old! It’s awful but I try not to let it hold me back.

  • drewnetwork

    You may be pleased to know that I assumed you were 23.

  • [..YouTube..] You may be pleased to know that I assumed you were 23.

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