I was out in the yard watering my veggie garden yesterday afternoon when a cute little head popped out of the neighbors window next door and asked if they could come over to play. My neighbor is this beautiful little six year old girl called Nina who has an equally beautiful hippy-ish mum who occasionally pops over to help me with my gardens.
So Nina came over to play. We watered the gardens together and tasted all the herbs I’m growing. Then we pulled a rug onto the lawn to do some kids yoga, acrobatics and play games.
To me children are little rays of sunshine. They have huge loving hearts, are exceptionally creative and love to play … and I feel we can learn an awful lot from them.
I’ve very recently noticed a pattern with the relationships I get myself into. A large portion of the close friends and lovers that I’ve had over the last 10 years have been very playful and childlike. I realize now that this is most likely a pattern that’s been brought on by being too “grown up” and not playing up enough myself. So I’ve decided that I need to have more fun with life, stop taking it so seriously and learn to play up and laugh more just like children do.
Part of me feels that we lose some of our spark as we get older. It’s almost like that playfulness in us gets shut down because we get taught that we have to go to school, and we have to go to school to get a job, and we have to get a job to earn money to buy a house and pay our medical bills and live the “dream” that we’re told is what we want out of life.
And all of this serious stuff turns us into really boring grown ups and we forget how much fun we had as a child, rolling around in the grass, climbing trees, dancing, laughing and just feeling okay to express ourself creatively in whatever way we wish.
So I’ve decided to become more playful from now on. I’m going to try and snap out of my grown up “seriousness” and learn to just have fun with it all! And you know what? I’m absolutely certain that play and learning from children is a one of the little keys to living a happier and more fulfilling life. Because who wouldn’t want to chase “happiness”?
Last night I went to a karaoke bar. Yes, you heard right …a KARAOKE bar.
This was certainly a new experience for me and I had no idea I’d end up there. It’s not like I woke up yesterday morning thinking, “I know, today I’ll go to a karaoke bar!”.
Thing is, I feel extremely uncomfortable with my singing voice. I got chucked out of the choir when I was seven (a bit dramatic I know) and ever since I’ve been quite shy with my singing voice.
So it was extremely liberating to be able to get right out of my comfort zone last night and belt out a few tunes into a microphone. In fact, I discovered that I actually quite like microphones and don’t mind at all being in front of one.
Getting out of my comfort zone regularly is all part of the transformation process I’m working on at the moment. If you just do what you’ve always done, then you get what you’ve always gotten. So every single day I’m trying something new, and usually that involves something that I wouldn’t normally feel “comfortable” with doing. As a result, I’m feeling a heightened sense of confidence and self esteem which is just awesome.
This morning life decided to teach me a significant lesson with a big slap in the face.
It’s funny, because normally this kind of “drama” would have made me upset or angry …or some kind of negative emotion. But instead I felt so fascinated and almost blown away by the power of our own creation. I became quite teary but not because I was upset! I was emotional because I was just in awe of how obvious a lesson can be if you choose to be open to it. And that is just so beautiful.
Even more interestingly I could almost predict that this incident was going to take place. Last night I was feeling very irritated and confused, and I had a massive headache that was still there when I woke up this morning. When this drama then “showed up”, my headache just vanished, instantly. Weird huh.
Fran, what are you talking about!?
When I eventually run into my ex boyfriend again I’m going to have to thank him from the bottom of my heart for leading me into so much suffering and despair. Sounds weird I know that I’d be thankful for that, but that despair led me to action which was then the catalyst for some significant changes that I’ve recently made in my life.
I’m not going to go into detail about what the lesson was or what the changes are that I’ve made in my life, because that’s a massive story and to be honest I don’t particularly know where to start.
But my reason for writing this short article is to remind you that any suffering or any despair that you may have in your life can always be looked at with a silver lining. I’m now learning to welcome drama in my life because it always, ALWAYS has launched me into something new and better.
I get emails almost daily from beautiful people who are suffering with some kind of depression about their skin or health condition, or loneliness with their life situation. And it’s difficult for me to write back and tell them “chin up, this is a good thing, life is going to be wonderful for you when you come out of this pain”. But I just wish they knew that. I wish every single one of you could find that little glimmer of light in the depths of darkness and get comfort in knowing that there is a lot of love around, and that it will have a wonderful and beautiful ending.
So for all of you out there that are feeling really crap about your skin right now. Just look at what I’ve CREATED from my despair and my skin condition. I’ve created the most awesome job in the world. My suffering, my year of depression, social isolation and emotional distress over my skin condition in fact was a blessing in disguise because it unconsciously led me into the most awesome job in the world. And for that, I love my acne and I’m so very grateful that I had that experience
If you’ve had any similar experiences, or have had a beautiful ending to a period of despair, let us all know about it! We’d love to hear from you.
I cannot even begin to tell you how much my life has changed since I moved into this house three months ago. My house mates and I sometimes sit around and talk about how wonderful this experience is and how our lives are gravitating towards are much happier and more fulfilling place.
A couple of weeks ago I started to become more aware of my interactions with people, and why I attract certain personalities and situations into my life. When you become more consciously aware of what you’re creating or what your higher purpose is, it can be very insightful!
I was never really big into astrology because I didn’t understand it. But my house mates obsession with finding out what everybody’s star sign is has kind of made me addicted to the habit too. One interesting observation that I’ve discovered is that this year I’ve made three very close new girl friends, and each one of them is a Taurus!
Often you draw people into your life that you need to learn from or “exchange energy” with. So for example, if you’re somebody that’s not very compassionate then you may draw a person into your life that’s on the other end of the scale – extremely compassionate. This will give you the opportunity to learn from them, whether or not you’re aware of it. Continue reading →
I’ve been catapulted into a big soul transformation over the past month or so which is just wonderful. It subtly started to begin when I moved into my new house with my three very like-minded friends, and then almost exploded about a month ago with a series of events and synchronicities that I couldn’t ignore.
Why am I telling you all this? Because I’ve had a huge problem most of my life with anxiety, self esteem and self love. Which (not surprisingly) is extremely common for those of us who deal with acne.
I’ve always known that the best way to treat or even “cure” acne at this emotional level was to build up those personal feelings of self confidence, self esteem and self love at both the conscious and subconscious level. But this is something that I’ve been struggling a lot with over the years, especially when I started on my journey to clear my severe acne. For me it was very easy to understand this concept at an intellectual level and to tell myself that “I am confident” or “I love myself”, but actually believing it was something that seemed almost too difficult to be possible.
I have managed to clear my skin but it’s a lot of maintenance to keep it that way. I personally feel that once you’ve been able to achieve a heightened sense of self love and self confidence then the acne will be so much easier to keep away. This means you probably can eat junk food or use crappy skin care without getting a breakout. Sure you may get a stomach ache and dull skin, but not a problem with acne. Continue reading →
I was out in the yard watering my veggie garden yesterday afternoon when a cute little head popped out of the neighbors window next door and asked if they could come over to play. My neighbor is this beautiful little six year old girl called Nina who has an equally beautiful hippy-ish mum who occasionally pops over to help me with my gardens.
Last night I went to a karaoke bar. Yes, you heard right …a KARAOKE bar. 
I cannot even begin to tell you how much my life has changed since I moved into this house three months ago. My house mates and I sometimes sit around and talk about how wonderful this experience is and how our lives are gravitating towards are much happier and more fulfilling place.
I’ve been catapulted into a big soul transformation over the past month or so which is just wonderful. It subtly started to begin when I moved into my new house with my three very like-minded friends, and then almost exploded about a month ago with a series of events and synchronicities that I couldn’t ignore.
