This morning life decided to teach me a significant lesson with a big slap in the face.
It’s funny, because normally this kind of “drama” would have made me upset or angry …or some kind of negative emotion. But instead I felt so fascinated and almost blown away by the power of our own creation. I became quite teary but not because I was upset! I was emotional because I was just in awe of how obvious a lesson can be if you choose to be open to it. And that is just so beautiful.
Even more interestingly I could almost predict that this incident was going to take place. Last night I was feeling very irritated and confused, and I had a massive headache that was still there when I woke up this morning. When this drama then “showed up”, my headache just vanished, instantly. Weird huh.
Fran, what are you talking about!?
When I eventually run into my ex boyfriend again I’m going to have to thank him from the bottom of my heart for leading me into so much suffering and despair. Sounds weird I know that I’d be thankful for that, but that despair led me to action which was then the catalyst for some significant changes that I’ve recently made in my life.
I’m not going to go into detail about what the lesson was or what the changes are that I’ve made in my life, because that’s a massive story and to be honest I don’t particularly know where to start.
But my reason for writing this short article is to remind you that any suffering or any despair that you may have in your life can always be looked at with a silver lining. I’m now learning to welcome drama in my life because it always, ALWAYS has launched me into something new and better.
I get emails almost daily from beautiful people who are suffering with some kind of depression about their skin or health condition, or loneliness with their life situation. And it’s difficult for me to write back and tell them “chin up, this is a good thing, life is going to be wonderful for you when you come out of this pain”. But I just wish they knew that. I wish every single one of you could find that little glimmer of light in the depths of darkness and get comfort in knowing that there is a lot of love around, and that it will have a wonderful and beautiful ending.
So for all of you out there that are feeling really crap about your skin right now. Just look at what I’ve CREATED from my despair and my skin condition. I’ve created the most awesome job in the world. My suffering, my year of depression, social isolation and emotional distress over my skin condition in fact was a blessing in disguise because it unconsciously led me into the most awesome job in the world. And for that, I love my acne and I’m so very grateful that I had that experience 
If you’ve had any similar experiences, or have had a beautiful ending to a period of despair, let us all know about it! We’d love to hear from you.
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Wow Fran,
Just the thing I needed to hear again. I totally agree with the power of our own emotions and thoughts shaping what is going to happen next. You certainly are a strong person to have overcome everything you have been through and share it with the rest of the world
An ending to despair for me, would definitely have to be beating depression in other ways than taking an anti-depressant. A lot of calming yoga and raw foods have helped a lot 
My acne has helped me get back to nature, so I can be greatful for that!
Ness xox
Wow, that’s a great way of looking at things. Having had problems with acne has taught me a lot (feeling overwhelmed by how much it has taught me). It makes me thankful for most of my trials. The only one that I can think of that I’m not very grateful for is losing my best friend and brother, about a month ago. Maybe some day I’ll be more thankful for it?
Hi, Fran.
Actually, why don’t you create a ‘wall of thanks to acne’ where everyone can write what he or she can thank acne for? Put it just between ‘forum’ and ‘advertise’ if you like the idea. Every acne site curses acne, has any site ever thanked it?
Thanks, acne:
1. For keeping me away from the dark side of social life: drugs, alcohol, etc.
2. For making me cleanse my body and start a healthy life style.
3. For not getting married early:)))) so, I waited for long but finally the right girl is by my side.
4. For making me look into my soul and understand who I really am.
5. For showing me the drawbacks of mine personality (I was a rude and disgusting person) that should be corrected. I have chaged a lot.
I’d like to thank J.W. for giving me a job as a waiter, and he taught me how to feel free in front of people. Honestly, not a single customer ever paid attention to my acne. And thank you, all the customers.
Oh I love this!!! It makes me want to change a few things about my holistic treatment
And Mike, that’s a wonderful idea with the forum – I’ll try to remember to do that.
Oh Fran this is a beautiful post.
I did actually think the other day that there are some people who can hold (and ignore) anger or resentment or pain in their bodies for a long, long time and then it can eventually manifest as something serious and scary.
I don’t think I could ever get like that, as my body and skin is such a sensitive mirror for everything that is going on in my mind and heart.
So, I thank my acne and my body for being an amazing feedback mechanism for me to see when my perspective is not loving and for alerting me to when I’m getting stressed.
Because then that gets me to thinking about why I’m stressed…and resolving things that are bothering me in my life.
great post!! very positive and uplifting…
thks fran
Fran-
My story is so similar to yours, so your perspective resonates so greatly with my being.
I’ve been suffering from adult acne for the past 3 – 4 years and the experience has been so painful, considering I never had any skin issues before.
I’ve learned so much, that I can’t even begin to describe the experience, but here it goes…
I learned that beauty means loving and cherishing yourself inside & out. I became a more complex human being, learning to move beyond outer appearances and learning about my internal thoughts – which were manifesting through my emotions & health. I started my hardcore research about acne & recovery, and this was the beginning of learning how to be passionate & proactive about something. Acne has actually pushed me to become a healthier me! I had to start finding many many other things to feel good about the person that I am, instead of solely relying on my face. I’m constantly learning about diet, exercise, affirmations, EFT, meditation, yoga, energy healing, oneness, psychology, holistic health, etc. I’ve learn to become more accepting & understanding of other human beings, knowing that we all suffer from one thing or another and that we should live our life with compassion, patience, thankfulness & love. I’m learning to listen to others and accept them as complex human beings. Trust & release of fear. Growth and complexity. Finding balance in life. Loving & accepting who I am right now in this moment.
Debra, this is such a beautiful comment, thank you so much for contributing
I’ve been so anxious about writing these sort of posts recently because I’ve been worried about the response from my readership, but comments like yours really make it so worthwhile. Thanks again 
x
i’ve had two bad things that had a beautiful ending. one real8ted 2 acne the other, not so much. so ill go w/ the ance one.
i got into a mary kay acne regemin to help clear my skin. my mary kay counselor suffered frm acne & cleared her skin using mary kay. i gav it a go & 4 the first few weeks i saw a difference that looked good 2 me. aftr that, it completely went down hill. i was go’n thru a 2 month ‘perging process’. my councilor insisted i hold on for 4 months 2 really see if it’s something for me or not & claimed i was too early in to tell. however i was having a horrible reaction to it & my skin became intolerant 2 it. i’ve gott’n acne for many yrs, but never did it get this bad. i’ve never had a reaction like this b4 2 any product. my skin tone didn’t match the tone on my neck! my face was so discolored, inflamed, & kind of white. i’m Spaniard & part African American. i’m naturally supposed 2 hav a light tint, but my face looked so different frm my natural skin color. i had so many bumps, & it would hurt so bad. i was break’n out in a way of a reaction to the product. it doesn’t sound pretty & my face looked as bad as it sounds. people were noticing my skin wen b4 it wasn’t so noticeable. wen my own barber started to speak up, & i’ve ben see’n her for 5 yrs, i knew, that was it. i quit that day. i had bcum depressed about my skin & couldn’t bare it any longer aftr 2 full months.
that night i cleansed w/ my old cleanser frm skin iD by Neutrogena. i woke up & couldn’t believe wat i saw. all of the discoloration was gone & i had my natural skin tone bak! all the bumps were still there but as for the inflammation, gone. after 3 months of a good diet, tears, low self esteem, trying to boost it, finally boosting it w/ the help of friends & boyfriend, & bee yummy. my skin is bak to normal & better than b4 cuz fran was ryt. that bee yummy is a miracle. the mary kay was so bad, the bee yummy couldn’t even take affect. now i’m happier & depressed free. thank u God, thank u fran. couldn’t hav done it w/o her & those who helped me thru it.
Because of my acne I will eat super healthy food for the rest of my life to keep acne away. So the acne has made me a super healthy girl, Im never sick and my body weight is perfect. Its actually almost impossible to get fat when you eat as healthy as I do.
No milk, sugar or gluten.
By the way, you should write about Stevia, which is “healthy” sugar plant. It actually build up your imune system. Its insane that so few people know about this magic sweet plant.
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