This is going to be a very short post to remind you to take some time out and look after yourself. It’s really important to have some time every now and again to destress and unwind and nurture your body and your soul.
I had dinner with my ex tonight which I was really excited about because I hadn’t seen him in a couple of months. We arranged to meet on the ferry. When the ferry pulled in he was standing at the back on the outside bit waving at me. It was so nice, you couldn’t wipe the smile off my face.
Mr Ex and I dated for a long period of time, just over eight years. We formed a deep love and friendship for each other that I still think will last for as long as we do. It’s so sad that we slowly drifted apart as a couple over the last couple of years of our relationship, but life is fluid and some things are meant to be.
It wasn’t until the walk home on my own after our dinner that I began to feel quite sad. It was hard to say goodbye because I didn’t know when I would see him again. It’s so difficult when you’ve been a ‘couple’ with someone for so many years, making the transition from being the absolute focus of their life to being just a friend.
I came home, had a hot shower, washed my hair and wrapped myself up in some warm comfy clothes. Then I made a cup of herbal tea and ate almost a whole block of organic chocolate. This little bit of luxury, of looking after myself is really important. For me, a hot shower where I cleanse my whole body including my hair is a way of washing away the day. The tea and chocolate are warm and sweet and almost loving to the soul. It’s surprising how a couple of little things can warm you up from the inside and take some of the sadness away.
Take care of yourself, leave some time for reflection and listen to your heart and your soul, it’ll make all the difference.
Frances Kerr 
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I got all choked up when I recounted your post to Mark - seriously I did. I just (literally) finished reading the big long novel “The post-birthday world” by Lionel Shriver - it centres on life choices & relationships.
There’s a guy that comes in to work each day. He was married for almost 50yrs. When that marriage ended he eventually met someone he loved more than he had ever loved anyone. He told me he had 7 of the best years of his life with her until she died when they were in their late 70s. I don’t know why I mention his story but it touched me when he told me.
That’s really sweet. You know, it’s sad but we both haven’t been in love with each other for a long time now so we’re happy to be apart. The only difficult thing is the friendship love we still have. It’s hard because we used to spend every day and every night together as friends but now we only see each other every now and again. As time passes, maybe we’ll be okay with seeing each other more
I’m also confident that I’ll find somone else that I can fall in love with just as much if not more than I was with Mr Ex. Luckily I’m still in my 20s and not my 70s!
Readers of your blog may also be interested to read a short summary of Sternberg’s Triangular theory of love (A blast from University past…). http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love
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